Hypnotherapy EFT for Anxiety in Northwich Cheshire

How to reduce anxiety in 5 minutes

If you suffer with anxiety or stress, have you ever thought how great it would be if you could teach your mind how to be calm, or happy? The good news is, when you do this simple technique – you can do just that!

Have you ever heard a song on the radio that instantly transports you back to a specific time in your life or a particular memory? Or smelled a certain scent that reminds you of someone or something? Ever noticed that it also invokes the feelings that you felt at the time? In NLP we call these associations ‘anchors’.

Your mind naturally associates and connects things together, with scent being a particularly powerful way of connecting feelings and memories. This usually happens unconsciously but we can also learn to do this consciously and deliberately. It’s always good to have a resourceful state that you can access whenever you need or want to feel better.

To create positive feelings, first think of a time when you were really strong, happy, and felt great! Really associate into the memory, imagine looking through your own eyes. Make it bigger, brighter, see what you saw, hear what you heard, feel what you felt. Turn EVERYTHING up and make the experience as intense as you can. When you are at the peak of the moment, press your finger and thumb together or press a knuckle or acupressure point. Hold it for as long as the feeling is strong, then release when the memory and feeling begins to fade. Do this a few times with different great memories in the same pressure point to get a really FAB strong anchor!

Test how you feel when you press the anchor point, to see for yourself how intense the good feelings can be when you fire off the anchor. This is a great way to use your brain’s natural ability for association for all sorts of things. Try creating different anchors for different feelings. Let me know in the comments below how you get on!

What is NLP?

Neuro Linguistic Programming, more commonly known as NLP is the study of the structure of our internal experience and has been described as an ‘Instruction Manual for the Brain’ or ‘The Art and Science of Effective Communication’. It is a set of ideas and methods developed in the 1970’s by Richard Bandler and John Grinder of understanding and changing the way that we think, feel and behave.

NLP is the process of understanding how people organise their thoughts, language, feelings and behaviour to produce the results that they do. We know that the way we think has an effect on the way we feel and this is something that is often taken for granted. Top athletes know the importance of having the correct state of mind when performing, and this is something that anyone can learn to do with NLP by understanding how this state of mind is achieved.

By understanding that we form our beliefs and internal map of the world as a result of our experiences we can begin to realise why we sometimes experience emotional problems. If you were constantly told as a child that you are stupid for example, you accept this into your programming and on some level believe it to be true. When you experience a traumatic event, the part of the mind which is designed to protect you (the unconscious mind) can sometimes deal with the trauma by overprotecting you, resulting in problems ranging from anxiety and phobias to extreme Post Traumatic Stress Disorder.

NLP can help you to understand your own ‘programming’, and why you behave, think and feel in the way that you do. By understanding how your mind operates, you can begin to feel how you want to feel, overcome the past and develop new ways of thinking and being that are more positive and fulfilling.

• NLP uses simple techniques which are incredibly effective.
• NLP teaches you how to be healthier, to be free from anxiety and to be more confident
• When NLP is combined with hypnosis and EFT the results are often life-changing.

Therapy Explained

What it’s all about?

I have created this blog primarily to discuss methods of resolving and overcoming the sort of problems we all come across in everyday life. I want to help provide the reader (and indeed myself to a degree) with information that is helpful in maintaining a positive attitude and getting the very best out of themselves and others.

My name is Rebecca Sutton (www.resolvehypnotherapy.co.uk) and I am a Clinical Hypnotherapist, Neuro Linguistic Programming Practitioner and an Emotional Freedom Technique Practitioner. I have qualifications in Psychology and Social Care and am very interested in Alternative and Complimentary Health issues. I am also a huge believer that it is possible to overcome even the most debilitating emotional and physical issues with the right sort of approach and information.

Have you ever wondered how some people seem to sail through life? The sort of people who are enviously labelled ‘just plain lucky’ or ‘leading a charmed life’? Or wondered how some people manage to survive massive emotional trauma and are able to find the silver lining in even the most horrendous circumstances?

It’s not that these people are in any way ‘special’ or ‘different’ from anyone else. What they do have however, is a set of strategies that enable them to utilise their own resources in ways that enable them to create successful outcomes. In essence, they are able to think positively. True positivity is not to ignore problems or to pretend blindly that everything is okay in the event of overwhelming evidence to the contrary, but rather the ability to use the incredible natural abilities of the human mind to create a desired outcome. This is an ability that anyone can learn and is something that I aim to cover extensively in this blog.

What is EFT Tapping?

EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) is one of the most exciting and powerful breakthroughs in the field of psychology to emerge in recent years. EFT is an emotional, needle free version of acupuncture based on proven scientific principles and uses the theory that all negative emotions are the result of disruptions in the body’s energy system.

We all know how the mind can affect the body and the negative effects of stress are well documented. What is now being discovered is just to what extent unresolved emotion can affect us, on an emotional but also physical level, even to the point of causing illness, pain or severe emotional disturbance.

By tapping on certain acupuncture points on the face and body known as meridians, while focusing the mind on the problem at hand, these disruptions are removed and the problem disappears. Thousands of people with a broad range of issues have benefited from applying EFT and getting incredible results, when nothing else has worked previously.

EFT works with both emotional problems and physical symptoms and can dramatically bring relief, sometimes within minutes. Results are usually rapid, long lasting and measurable. Problems such as anxiety, depression, panic attacks, physical pain, illness and lack of self esteem, confidence or self worth – EFT can help.

As an advanced EFT practitioner I have seen so many people achieve amazing results with this technique, I believe strongly that with EFT you can not only achieve relief from your problems, but learn an incredible method of self healing that you will use for the rest of your life.

How to stop negative thoughts

One of the biggest obstacles to creating the life and future that you dream of, can be the occurance of negative thoughts. Thinking of what has happened in the past, worries of what might happen in the future, these all have an impact on the way we feel in the present and therefore affect what we attract into our lives.

Even though we may know logically and consciously what we should be doing (ie thinking positive thoughts) sometimes it can be really difficult to know HOW to change our negative thinking and what we need to do to stop those thoughts when they arise.

Unfortunately we don’t come with an instruction manual and we tend to find that the more we try not to do something, the harder it is to stop. One of the main reasons for this is that your unconscious mind doesn’t recognise negatives, such as no, stop and don’t. For example if someone were to say to you “Whatever you do, DON’T think about a pink elephant!” – you think of a pink elephant. You can’t help it – in order to dismiss something, you have to first think about it.

You can change how you feel about your thoughts, by using the way that your mind naturally processes information. When you think of a memory that you feel very strongly about, either positively or negatively, you experience it with your senses. You may get a visual image in your mind’s eye, you may have sounds or voices connected to it, it may even have smells and tastes and you will also get a feeling that goes with it.

When you have a strong emotional reaction about something, those senses tend to be amplified, so the image will probably be a movie as opposed to a still image, brightly coloured, quite close and big and you may be imagining it through your own eyes. The sounds may be quite loud, clear and near and you may get a physical sensation in your body that matches the emotion.

If your thought is one that makes you feel strongly negative, you can adjust each one of those factors so that your brain interprets the information differently and therefore doesn’t react in the same way. So for a negative visual image you can:

Imagine you can see yourself in the image instead of through your own eyes.
If it’s a movie, make it into a still image.
Make the picture black and white, and push it further away.
Shrink the image or make it see through

For auditory elements, such as a negative internal dialogue, you can:

Turn the volume down
Make it come from further away from you or a different place
If it’s an internal voice, change it into a funny voice, such as your favourite comedian or Donald Duck.
Make it softer and kinder

On the flip side, you can also use this to create compelling visual images of what you do want, which helps with manifesting your desires. To do this, reverse the above – make images more colourful, bigger, bring it closer and see through your own eyes. Turn sounds up, make them clearer and surround sound or give your image an inspiring or motivating soundtrack. When you say positive things to yourself, say them in your mind loudly in an excited, motivated tone of voice (or calm, relaxed etc).

Your mind is an incredible learning machine, and it doesn’t take it very long to learn new ways of thinking about something. If you keep repeating your adjustments, your brain learns to think in the new way and does it automatically for you. Then by being able to adjust your thoughts so you can feel better right now, manifesting what you do want instead of what you don’t, becomes a lot easier.

Can EFT be used for back pain? Case Study

EFT can be incredibly useful for resolving chronic and severe pain issues. One of my most interesting and dramatic cases so far was with a client called Kay, a lady who had suffered with chronic back pain for the previous seven years. This had been described as a muscular issue by medics and for which the client was currently receiving physiotherapy, with no marked improvements at all.

Kay was familiar with energy work, being a Reiki practitioner and had also tried many other forms of complementary therapy (Reflexology, Bowen technique etc), without success.

She moved very slowly and stiffly, had to take the time to push herself up from the chair using her arms and found it painful to bend over to pick anything up from the floor. She also had shoulder and neck pain a lot of the time, and was struggling to cope with everyday tasks that involved lifting or physical activity. She rated the level of intensity at about a seven (on a scale of one to ten, ten being the worst) at a specific point when trying to get out of the chair, and said that she was only without pain whilst sat still and upright and that any movement started the pain off. Her body language was tense; she rarely smiled and explained that she felt constantly tired and very depressed about her condition.

After explaining to Kay the nature of eft, we began tapping just on the physical sensations to begin with;

“Even though I have this sharp stabbing pain in my lower back when I try to get up from the chair…”
“Even though it hurts my lower back so much when I stand up…”
“Even though I get these pains shooting down my legs…”

I then asked her to test by standing up from the chair, at which point the pain had dropped to around a five. She then stated that she was feeling a tingling sensation and warmth spreading from her lower back down her legs.

We continued to tap then on the feelings surrounding the pain;

“Even though I’m so fed up of being in constant pain…”
“Even though I’m scared that I will just have to learn to live with it…” (A lovely phrase from a doctor incidentally that one…)
“Even though I’m so tired of hurting all the time…”

At this point she declared that the warm sensation was moving down her legs and that her feet were beginning to tingle. She described a feeling in her back that was like the muscles beginning to relax.
We tested by getting up from the chair, and the pain had dropped to around a three. She then stated that the pain in her shoulder and arm was getting worse.

We then tapped on this, before which I asked her to be aware of thoughts and feelings that may surface during the tapping round. After this she said the pain had moved to her heart. At which point she announced “Oh! It’s my Dad!” and burst into tears. (Kay had lost her Dad to cancer about fifteen years before)

As she was very upset, I began tapping for her on the Karate point, while she told me how she felt about her Dad’s death, and was ok with me continuing to tap whilst I repeated what she had said;

“Even though I still miss him so much…”
“Even though it’s not fair and he should still be here…”
“Even though I’m angry because he was too good a person to go so soon…”

It was of course very emotional, and we managed to get it round to;

“Even though it still hurts so much… maybe I can keep all the love and happy emotions and let go of this pain…”
“Maybe Dad would want me to feel the love and move on now… maybe I’m ready to let go of the hurt, maybe I can still keep the happy memories…”

Kay calmed down during this, stopped crying and visibly relaxed as I continued to tap for her. When I finished she gave me a big smile and said she felt light and completely free from pain. I asked her to stand again, which she did gingerly – but completely pain free! We both looked at each other in shock, and then had her walk around, bend over to pick something up from the floor and sit back down again. All of which she did without a hint of pain! I then commented on the fact that she still seemed fearful of standing up, so we then tapped on any remaining fear of the pain, after which she stood up normally with smooth movements and dramatically altered body language. She stood up straight, her head was held high and she was relaxed and fluid in her movement. Even her eyes and skin were brighter and seemed to have improved in appearance.

She then tested again and could get up and down out of the chair easily, bend over to pick something up and even touch her toes! She literally danced around the room in excitement, stating that she hadn’t been able to do any of this for such a long time, she had forgotten what it felt like to be completely pain free. She couldn’t stop laughing and hugging me and I felt truly humbled to be able to experience seeing this healing take place in front of my very eyes.

Since that session, she reported slight discomfort in the lower back area the following day, which she promptly tapped on and got rid of, and has had no reoccurrence of the pain whatsoever since then. Not only has she experienced the physical benefits, her emotional health has benefited enormously and she is much more light-hearted and prone to laughter than I have ever seen her. This one session took place just over two months ago and to date she continues to improve daily.

EFT Article in the Daily Telegraph

EFT is to be found everywhere and has seen a huge surge in popularity over the last few years, even finding it’s way into celebrity circles, as discovered in this article published in the Daily Telegraph by Beverley Turner…

Singer Michael Ball was seen doing it on a daytime TV chat show. He learnt it from the late singer, Stephen Gately, who used it to calm his own performance nerves. Lily Allen’s weight loss was attributed to its efficacy. American PGA players have been spotted doing it around the golf course. And Norwegian pole-vaulter Rens Blom credited his unexpected 2005 World Championship Gold to its powers. The internet reveals millions of anecdotal accounts of its success on phobias, addictions and anxiety. So nearing the end of my own two-year psychotherapy training, I wanted to discover what this mysterious “tapping” business is all about.

So I signed up for a day course at the EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Academy in London’s Regent’s College, with Richard Mark, an advanced EFT practitioner and certified trainer, who has worked as a psychotherapist and hypnotherapist for 12 years. My fellow students are a mixed bunch of mental health professionals, lawyers, physiotherapists, trainee counsellors and full-time parents. Unafraid to challenge, the students are surprisingly curious and sceptical rather than gullibile. There isn’t a sandal or kaftan among them.

Although it doesn’t rigidly follow his teachings, Mark’s course is based on the EFT therapy developed by American, Gary Craig in 1997. Craig had studied Dr. Callaghan’s Thought Field Therapy in the 1980s, an evolution of John Diamond’s Kinesiology, both of which were rooted in ancient Eastern “meridian energy” theories of acupuncture and Shiatsu, codified since at least 1000BC.

These therapies claimed that our bodies contain invisible energy pathways – meridians – and identified hundreds of acupoints at junctions along these interconnecting highways. They can be disrupted by life’s vicissitudes; in extreme cases, resulting in not only mental but also physical problems.

EFT works by a person tapping on just nine of these acupoints, while speaking aloud. And this is where it becomes a little weird. Working in pairs we identify a minor physical ailment and repeat the phrase, “Even though I have this sore knee / headache / lack of energy, I deeply and completely accept myself,” while tapping on the meridian points: the soft part of the hand beneath the little finger, crown of the head, around the eyes, beneath the nose, the chin, near the clavicle and beneath the armpit. I just about resist the urge to “ooh ooh” like a monkey.

A key part of the therapy is calibrating the intensity of either physical or emotional pain, which allows both therapist and patient a tangible scale by which to measure success. Mark explains that EFT is “especially effective in clearing traumatic memories: accidents, abuse, violence, childhood memories; or even clearing persistent negative messages from family or key people in our lives.”

We move onto emotional problems, selecting a memory that is difficult, but manageable in the limited time available, and within a classroom environment. Using the “Movie Technique,” we must make a mental movie of a specific event, giving it a title and running it in our mind’s eye, marking its intensity between 1 – 10, before tapping with the mantra, “Even though I have this playground bullying / car accident / illness diagnosis movie, I deeply and completely accept myself.” In extreme cases of trauma, the patient can merely imagine the units of distress without running the movie in their head, gradually moving towards the scene at a safe pace.

In spite of – or perhaps because of – the adrenaline from feeling like a bit of a wally, when using the “Movie Technique” myself my own memory of witnessing a violent assault twenty years ago, does indeed fade in its intensity. But I’m not a prime candidate. EFT has impressive results on a whole spectrum of emotional issues but is arguably making its biggest impact on those suffering from post-traumatic stress disorder.

Treating such patients, Marta Krol, a Polish clinical psychologist who trained under Mark and has returned to Poland, has found EFT’s effects “amazing”. She recounts a 12-year-old Chechnyan girl suffering speech and anxiety problems as a result of witnessing, aged six, her uncle’s dismembered body brought into the family home and laid on the kitchen table by hysterical relatives. The child did not speak at all for the following 12 months.

“We had worked together for six months with little progress,” says Krol, “Then I tried EFT. She pictured herself watching the terrible scene on TV but through another TV and so on until she was five levels removed and even then she saw herself watching from behind the curtains. But after six weeks she was talking fluently and could recount the event with no anxiety. I honestly believe I could not have helped her do that without EFT.”

Emma-Leigh Johnson, a London-based drugs counsellor is unequivocal about its benefits, “By the time clients come to me they have had lots of therapy. They know what to say, the games to play and boxes to tick. EFT is so unusual, they don’t know what you want to hear.”

Few therapies allow a patient to say aloud that they accept themselves despite their rape / abuse / addiction, while dealing with the emotions that arise simultaneously. Johnson explains, “lots of therapy separates the issue and the human being. With this you can change how you feel about something, but accept that you can’t change what happened – that’s the emotional freedom. I see bigger shifts using EFT than any other therapy.”

Some clients prefer to be ‘tapped upon’ by the therapist; others will mirror their actions; but perhaps more than any other therapy, EFT equips the individual to take away the skill to use at any time.

EFT is still ripe for ridicule. Having explained it in broad terms to my husband, he can now be heard muttering, “I may not have unstacked the dishwasher but I deeply and completely accept myself.” But I have no doubt that the sound of tapping is here to stay. And it’s only going to get louder.

EFT as first aid for children

Recently my daughter had some little friends over to play. Everything was going fine until James (age four) unwisely decided to rest his hand on the door just as it was being closed. Result – trapped purple fingers and a yell that had me running from the other end of the house like a bat out of hell.

Poor James was inconsolable so instinctively I led him quickly to the tap to rinse his fingers under the water, and while he did that I just began to tap the eft points from the top of his head to collarbone, repeatedly for a moment or two.

The results were quite remarkable. Within about 30 seconds James had stopped crying. Within a minute his breathing had returned to normal, and within two minutes he was completely calm. I asked him if he had any soreness left in his finger, and he paused for a second, then happy as Larry replied “Nope! It’s all better now.”

Upon examination, the fingers that a few minutes earlier were livid purple and undoubtedly bruised were a normal colour with no hint of even slight bruising. James of course took all this in his stride and scampered off, leaving me staring into space in wonder, marvelling once again at the amazing healing power of EFT.

When I next saw James, it was a couple of days later, and when I asked how his fingers were, he had forgotten he had hurt them, and there wasn’t a mark on them. Magic indeed!